I thought the “50 Reasons Not to Change” presentation was
really interesting! It is crazy to me how so many people today refuse to embrace
change for what it is, something good! Or at least I think so!
What is really interesting about the presentation was that
fact that it reminded me of my boyfriend Steven. He is the type of person who
will come up with any excuse in the world not to do something. For example, Steven’s
brother Clint has been asking him for weeks now to go to Ocala cabin with him because
he needs his help laying the hardwood floors. Ironically Steven always has an excuse
for why he cannot go. One week it’s I have to take the dog to the vet on
Saturday, another week it’s I hurt my back lifting weights or I have an exam or
I have a birthday party to go to. It is
always something! He is the reason why our Kitchen (after starting it over 2
years ago) is still not finished. Obviously, it is frustrating when people, such
as my boyfriend Steven, lack initiative and refuse to accept change.
Do you
ever use any of these excuses yourself?
On occasion, I find myself following in Steven’s footsteps,
so much that I annoy myself. It is hard to accept changes and stop coming up
with excuses when you feel like are stuck in a rut. I think that what annoys me
the most is that I feel like I am not being as productive as I can be, like I
am waiting my time or being lazy! That’s what is it all about, not embracing change,
it’s an excuse to be lazy!
How can
you overcome the thinking that creates negative responses towards change?
I think for me, I need to surround myself with people who
embrace change, who do not fear it; people who are enthusiastic towards life
and all it has to offer. Change can be overwhelming and scary at times, so
scary that it becomes a fear (like a person who fears spiders). However, I
think the end result is always worth the effort. Rule to thumb: you get out what
you put into it!
Do you
agree with Seth Godin’s concept that change is driven by tribes?
I do agree with Seth Godin, I too believe that strength lies
in numbers; however, strength used for the wrong reason is not good thing! Take
Hitler for example, he had strength in numbers and killed millions of people.
Much too often strength is used to force people into doing something rather
than allowing them to chose on their own. In order for people to change, it has
to be their choice, you cannot force it!
What can
you take away from this exercise to immediately use in your career?
I think that this exercise has encouraged me to start taking
risks! I have never been much of a gambler, but isn’t that what change is, a
gamble? You never really know the end result of change; that is why it is so
scary.